Real talk, already dealing with this with the 3-year old. Of course, easier said than done. Wait … how did this turn into parenting corner? 
To keep this on topic, I will say I just got her a little tikes hoop for her birthday, and I successfully recruited her from saying she doesn’t like basketball to the joys of dunking.
Wait til she tells you she wants Duke to win. Thats when you start questioning everything you ever did
My 5 year old struggles with her confidence (and timidness) and sports and activities might be making it worse. I don’t know what to try next with her.
My 1.5 year old has no confidence or shyness issues right now, but we’ll see if he can continue to defy his parents genetics regarding that. I sure hope so.
Seems to be a good strategy for getting kids into Nescac type of schools. Crazy the number of kids they take for some of those sports because the burnout rate is so high.
NESCAC! My old stomping grounds! I’m still bitter Tufts is somehow in that conference with 12k students. Their O-Line was HUGE compared to everyone else’s.
I think the confidence, fitness, and teamwork aspects of sports are really, really hard to find anywhere else. Sports aren’t right for every kid, and every sport/situation isn’t right for every kid, but generally speaking they’re tremendously valuable.
Our girls are pretty well rounded and tried a variety of sports. Our older daughter didn’t really like sports, but she’d taken tennis lessons for a while and decided she hated tennis the least. Surprisingly, she was all-district as a Sophomore and while Covid kinda wrecked her last two seasons, she was Captain her senior year. On senior day the other girls made a bunch of signs cheering for her and made her a water bottle that said “Captain Margaret” on the side and she just bawled because she was so touched.
The point being, she never loved tennis and had no desire to play in college (and she’s not), but she did end up getting a ton out of it, and it was incredible for developing her confidence and leadership.
Our other daughter has no shortage of confidence to begin with, but just loves sports for the sake of playing, wants to play like 3 different sports at the same time, and talks about wanting to change sports each year because she’s bitter she has to pick one. So, she’s a completely different kid getting something completely different out of it, but its still great.
Edit - I should note that we’ve done occasional lessons and bought equipment, but we’ve never done the whole expensive travel and tournament circuit because it never seemed plausible the kids might make a living doing this, so why spend a ton of money?
Really? What about rec league sports … plenty of pretty good kids and really good people…Been coaching rec sports the last 7 years and it’s really cool to see kids improve and work together.
An example - One of my sons has been taking drum lessons (I taught him basics but he has almost surpassed me now) … and he’s already better at drums than he is at soccer having played for 6 years. But soccer and Basketball have been great outlets for him… just a few thoughts…
Piano
I am always big with “good job good job” for effort things. rarely critical with em at that age … but I get it, they are all different
It’s Michigan State. Izzo has had the best relationship with him for the past year at least.
I mean Izzo did help school fundraising. Still one of the funniest things I’ve seen…the open gym promotional ambush.
@haney ,Your exactly right about the money pit. My boy was a great shooter in basketball and a great hitter in baseball. His problem was he was slow. I spent a fortune on him training and traveling to AAU tournaments all over Virginia and the neighboring states. But we really had a great time and became friends with the other parents and still friends today. My son went on to have a good high school career in baseball but that was the end of it .There is no telling how much money i spent over those years. I dont regret a penny. There were a lot of good times
Look…people spend there money…if it’s not on kids sports it would be something else your kid was into…maybe traveling with the lego building team…yes this is a real thing…nerdy as hell but if my kid was good at it…I would be forking out the bucks for the travel etc…
It’s not like that money being spent is going back into your pocket…parents that want their kids to be confident and be successful will financially support them…at anything…heck take scouting…there are super camps you can spend a couple grand to send your kids way to just to get a handful of badges on your way to Eagle Scout…
Just be thankful that you have the disposable income to do so…cuz there are families where that much travel and expense is not an option…
Im aware of that and very grateful. To me it was well spent money
My long perspective: I played competitive tennis & announced to my folks I was going to get a scolarship, they told me simply paying for college would be cheaper, just have fun. Won some stuff, great for self esteem, and it kept me out of trouble. Body broke down pre-college, went to UVa as a student instead of to a small college to play. But it taught me how to train, and when had horrific car wreck at 25, the reason I survived/recovered was luck and knowing how to push myself to the limit. Sports can be great long past your athletic shelf life.
Just adding to the convo…not meant to single you out sir… I have no doubt that you are grateful🙏
Did an illuminating role-reversal exercise once with a group of parents and teenagers. Everybody was put into adult/kid pairs but not with your own kid. The adults pretended to be kids who were very involved in athletics telling their parent they wanted to quit and why. Made me think about the need to separate my own enjoyment/involvement of watching my kids play vs their reasons for playing. And it made it a at least a little easier a few years later when my very skilled younger kid quit a sport going into high school (staying good friends to this day with several teammates) while casually taking up a couple of other sports with no goal other than to have fun and stay in shape.
Curious what this will be. Haven’t kept track that closely but I’m guessing he goes the mid major route maybe stays home at UNCG. Does VT want him?
https://twitter.com/336edits/status/1552671254133497857
Well the tweet was deleted. It said Jaydon Young would announce tomorrow.
Interesting stuff. Thought this part was interesting to chew on:
More swings on players equates to more chances they’ll hit. For Florida, the swings are veteran transfers and top-50 prospects. Florida will be utilizing the portal as aggressively as any SEC program. Golden’s recruiting philosophy comes down to this: go after high school players with high-end potential, then fill in the roster with 20- and 21-year-olds who’ve proven their value at the college level.
“We won’t take a younger guy unless we think he is physically ready to play for us in his first year,” Golden said. “We need pros. We need bad-ass dudes.”
Golden doesn’t expect most of his freshmen to be able to play significant minutes their first year. The calculus has changed, and Florida can’t rely on high school recruiting as its primary source if it wants to get back to consistent top-three status in the SEC."
I assume the “we won’t take younger dudes” part means no younger transfers.
Golden and staff think about things analytically. I agree with the take as many swings as you can on younger guys. Don’t worry (too much, but maybe a little), about over-recruiting. But I do think you need to worry about transfer recruiting vs. frosh recruiting (the BVP v. Traudt issue).
Also, this. Wow:
$260,000 allotted for plane fuel each year.